We entered adoption seeking to adopt a child from foster care under the age of our biological twin sons (then 8 and a half). Gender and/or ethnic background were not important.
We started the process with an agency in town, went through the required classes, completed the paperwork, got a home study done and I remember being so excited when everything was behind us and we were at the point where we were just waiting for a match. Over the days, weeks, months that followed, we must have submitted inquiries for information on hundreds of children that were available for adoption from all over the country. Then the social worker that was our contact at the agency left and a new one was assigned to us. The same thing happened again, and again, and again – a new person would contact us and tell us our contact is no longer with the agency and she will be working with us going forward – we had to work with 6 different people, none of which had children or planned to ever have children.
As the wait to receive information back and find a match continued to grow, the weeks turned into months, our disappointment and frustration grew as well. During all that time only one opportunity presented itself, though again, with much disappointment it did not work out. In retrospect I now see that the child that was meant for us was yet to be born.
After a year and a half of working with the other agency, we decided that the process is not going anywhere so we started looking for a new one. We found ACF through a friend of a friend that adopted from them and was very complimentary of everyone that worked there. They gave us Rob’s contact information and I decided to reach out to him.
From the very first time we spoke, I could tell these were the people and this is the agency I have been looking for. Rob is an adoptive parent and I immediately felt that he understands and he cares. It was a totally different experience having a conversation with him compared to any 1 of the 6 different people at the prior agency.
Everyone at ACF treated us with kindness and care, they walked us step by step through the process and patiently answered questions.
Once the paperwork was completed, the wait for a match started. This is the hardest part but you have to be patient (even though it is easier said than done) and I promise you, everyone at ACF has your best interest at heart. We did have a failed adoption match (3 year old girl that was possibly placed for adoption) but it failed only because a family member stepped in to help take care of the child. No one could have predicted that. No matter how traumatic the experience was for us I still believe it may have been in the child’s best interest to stay with family. Things happen for a reason, that match was not meant to be. Fast forward and 10 months after our failed match, we got a precious baby boy.
The joy in our hearts is overwhelming. I don’t think there is any human way possible someone could have matched him so perfectly to our family. His personality and spirit are such a blessing to us. It’s like he’s always been here and part of our family. Our twins (now 11 and a half) absolutely adore him.
I was very nervous about meeting his birth mom, it was an emotional encounter but Rob and other members of the ACF team were there and made it easier. We are in direct contact his birth mom now, we send her updates and pictures and we will see her twice an year. I believe that this is a priceless gift for our son when he grows up. He has two half siblings that I would like him to meet but that is his birth Mom’s call and whatever she decides we will just respect her wish.
ACF continues to offer ongoing support. I know it sound cliché but they do feel like family. Words cannot express the love and joy they brought to us.
I strongly recommend ACF if you are looking to start, or add to your family. If you’re an expectant mom, they will help guide you as you place your child in the loving home of people whose dream is to become parents. Good luck on your journey.
My husband, Matt, and I are writing this letter in the hope that other families will have the joy of working with Robert and his team at ACF. From the first phone call, we knew this would be a positive step toward growing our family through adoption because we felt like we were a priority, that our situation was understood, and concerns listened to, We also knew right away how much ACF respected and honored birth parents while helping ensure their health and well-being before, during, and after adoption placement. It was important to us to know that all sides of the adoption triad were loved, respected, and cared for. Thanks to answered prayers, ACF, and an amazing birth mom, we are now a forever family to a wonderful baby boy! The process of adoption can be extremely challenging, however, because of ACF we finally had a happy ending to our story within 9 months. ACF Adoption Services provided us with caring, patient, and personable guidance throughout our adoption process, and we are blessed to have connected with their dependable, professional, and experienced team.
Matt and Mariela
An adoption journey involves many unknowns and requires many leaps of faith. We cannot imagine a better agency to guide and support us through our journey than ACF Adoptions (in partnership with our local agency that provided pre- and post-placement services). Rob and the staff answered countless emails and texts and spent hours with us on the phone. They were always positive, but also honest and practical, and we felt they always had the best interests of our daughter and her birth mother as their guiding principle. Our ACF Adoptions social worker arranged and facilitated a meeting with our daughter's birth mother when she was pregnant, allowing us to get to know each other and giving her the opportunity to make sure that she was comfortable with her choice. That hour in the social worker's office will always be one of the most special moments of our lives, along with meeting our daughter for the first time. We are so thankful to ACF Adoptions and would recommend them without hesitation. ~Richard & Natalie